The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read by Philippa Perry
Given how highly regarded this book seems to be amongst other parents in my bubble, I was disappointed (and glad it was a library borrow rather than bought). The core premise is basically to invest time and energy in your relationship with your children (seemingly at the cost or denial of all other factors), and if anything goes wrong you need to look for the cause in your own childhood. Whilst there were some bits to agree with, I don't think I took a single thing away from this read. I found the writing tone clunky and often quite patronising, and despite going out of their way to say they don't judge or blame the reader there's definitely quite a few judgy moments (judging someone for observing them carrying a scooter?!). Another example: "I wonder whether the irritation you feel at whingeing is something to do with being shut off from what it felt like when you were an infant or a child and you felt sad and defenceless? The annoyance with your child could be coming from you not wanting to be taken back to the pain of re-experiencing old feelings of fragile vulnerability. So instead you try to down your child." No, Philippa, sometimes whingeing is just annoying because it's annoying ๐ฅฒ
The book on one hand is at pains to pose as un-opinionated (developmental milestone timings etc), whilst also being highly opinionated (co-sleeping is the right thing to do for your child). It conveniently completely ignores contradictory narratives (e.g. research that the safest place for babies to sleep is their own space), or that perhaps societal factors and just Life Realities may rightly or wrongly be the drivers behind some of how you have to parent. It's not always as simple as the book would have you believe, and I came away feeling that this was overall a very shallow philosophy dressed up in 250+ words.